It seems unbelievable that people might be able to work through longstanding emotional baggage quickly and easily. However, in some circumstances it's possible to break free of long-term shame and/or anxiety with some small cognitive-behavioral shifts. Try these suggestions to see how.
1. Be honest, open, and upfront about unwarranted sources of shame.
Let's run through an example of this principle. I'm an extreme night owl. I love the quiet and stillness of the night but I used to feel somewhat embarrassed about the fact I get up late. I'd be tempted to make excuses about why I wasn't available in the morning. Now, I'm honest and upfront with friends and colleagues about the hours I keep. If I absolutely need to get up early for something important of course I do, but I let people know I stay up late and get up late.
When you have an atypical habit like this, there's a balance involved in not expecting other people to bend to your needs more than you bend to theirs. I can say "My preference is afternoon appointments but I can do morning if need be." Or, "I'd need to get up much earlier than I usually do in order to meet you that early, but if that's the only time